"I've been going back & forth for months (possibly years) on whether to divorce my husband or not. Youngest is now 18. As far as I know, there has been no adultery committed by either of us. He says he loves me, but doesn't & hasn't listened to me for the entire 20 yrs of our marriage. I'm constantly embarrassed by his aggressive argumentative behavior whenever we go out - store, restaurant, party - doesn't matter. He makes considerably more money than me & my lifestyle would definitely change, yet I still feel I want to leave & start over (even at age 48). Is it wrong to be selfish & want to leave? Is it wrong to stay for financial security (which is the only reason I've come up with so far to stay)? He says he'll change, but I've heard that numerous times. He says he means it this time, but I'm thinking its only because he knows my hand is on the door knob. There is just too much to forgive or forget. DO I DO WHAT FEELS RIGHT FOR ME or STAY IN THE MARRIAGE?? - CF

"My advice to you is to examine yourself. You are blessed to have a husband who is able to financially support you. There are no Biblical grounds for you to divorce your husband. As the Bible says in the Book of 1 Corinthians 11:28-30, But let a man examine himself, and so let him eat of the bread and drink of the cup. For he who eats and drinks in an unworthy manner eats and drinks judgment to himself, not discerning the Lord’s body. For this reason many are weak and sick among you, and many sleep. After doing that - start seeking God and putting Him first in eveything. Fast and pray for your husband like Queen Esther did. She also made herself physically beautiful for him. God has kept you in this marriage all these years, do not throw it away. Be strong in the Lord. Pray and ask God to show you yourself. Psalm 139:24 says - And see if there is any wicked way in me, And lead me in the way everlasting. Be a true example of a Godly woman to your husband." - Savi